60 PLUS AND NOT HOLDING (Continuatiion of Series) THE CARE AND CONTROL OF ANGRY ARGUMENTS (PART 2)

 

Remember that the first thing everyone is really concerned with is themselves. A survey was taken asking people what they felt was important in making them feel better. Being shown respect topped the list. Being appreciated was not far behind.

And be liked…work at making all this come true…by…

Being likeable. Simply making optimistic comments can go a long way toward cutting down on argumentation.

Unlikeable people often pessimistically infect. Al Capp, the cartoonist, used to draw a little fellow who carried his own rain cloud around with him. What if he had carried his own little sun around instead. Fail to be nice to a rival or an enemy and you throwaway a golden opportunity.

Would you truly like to argue less? Then practice then old Texas maxim: Hug your friends tight, but your enemies tighter. Hug 'em till they wiggle.

Be liberal with praise. No one will tell you to stop, and even if they do, they don't really mean it. Be sure to find the places where it is deserved. Insincere compliments are worse than no praise at all. Approval is seldom a starting gun for anger.

A few don'ts that will help any relationship. Don't make promises that can't be kept. Don't be a nag. Don't ask others to be mind readers. Don't, when your feelings get hurt and you're asked what's wrong? reply, "If you really cared, you'd know."

It is not what we say but how its is perceived. Never assume that the message sent is the same one received. Communication is a shaky art, especially verbal communication.

People misunderstand and are even capable of refusing to understand. And words don't have just one meaning, there is your meaning and their meaning.

Don't talk down to people. A sense of inferiority, real or imagined, blocks communication.

If something your spouse or friend said, or says, bothers you try this opening phrase, "It shouldn't bother me but it (name what it is) does. What can we (not you) do about it?" And always do this one-on-one, not in front of others.

Wear the other persons moccasins. They may pinch, but if you can even partially share the pain your ideas and actions may be causing, you can more  easily control or stop an argument before it starts.

Just remember…life is not what it is…but what we make it.

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“I am come that they (you) may have life and have it to the full.  (John 10:10)

Anyone who lives long enough gets older.  There are no other options.  How we handle the adventure is filled with options.

Keep both eyes on life, and not on the calendar.  Admit your age, but don’t admit to the fallacy that you have to act like it.  Saying, “I’m 39 and holding,” is more tragic than humorous because it argues that age has no attributes.

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Below is a quote from Wyrick’s writings blog entitled ANGER VS. PATIENCE
“After the old man had departed, God called out to Abraham and asked where the stranger was. Abraham replied, “I sent him on his way because he did not worship you.”

God answered “I have suffered him all his eighty years although he dishonors me. Could you not endure for just one night?”

God suffers us, endures us! And forgives us and loves us and sets such a perfect example for us.”

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BELOW IS A QUOTE FROM THE SERIES  “A HEAVENLY CONSTRUCTION PROGRAM” … (1st in series) (on this Wyrick’s Writing blog)

 “I have always been intrigued by a question God put to Adam, “Where are you?” Why did He ask that? What is the meaning behind this? It wasn’t a geographical question, for certainly God knew the answer to that one.

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BELOW IS A QUOTE FROM A SERIES “Depression…the Alien Within”  on this Wyrick’s Writings …each WEEK

”Sometimes the best thing do, if depression descends on you, is for a little while to try to wipe clean the slate of your worried mind.  To give such thoughts some muted silence.  Seek an emotional whiteout.  Just let the soft breeze of nothingness blow for a while.  And then, read John 14:27 and hear Jesus saying, “Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you.  Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.” 

 

“Do you enjoy visiting friends? More than likely you’re thinking, Preacher, of course, I do.
Now let me ask the other side of the coin - Do you enjoy visiting enemies? No?

 

Well, I know you must enjoy visiting at least one enemy because, like myself, you probably visit this one quite often. Unfortunately, we all …visit this enemy…whose name is anger.

Some visit anger seldom . Some on a regular basis. And during those visits, some spew and others stew.”

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