RUST ON MY SOUL (62nd in series)  send out May 17 2011

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RUST ON MY SOUL (A Novel) (Published by Bridge Press in 1985 & Distributed Internationally) (A new Series that began on Tues April 13th and will continue every Tuesday thereafter until finished) (Thursday & Sunday will continue to cover a variety of subjects as in the past)

INTRODUCTION (Repeated for those new to the series)

In an old loose leaf notebook, Thomas Kettering wrote when there was a cry from his heart. He wrote when his inner longing spilled over into the reality of his days. He did not write every day, only when he felt he must. How often he wrote or when is not important. The journey is what counts, for it is a diary about all of us, to all of us. “A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step,” and even a stumble is a step.

Evening

I saw my old self in the rearview mirror this afternoon.  He got my attention with an angry blast from his horn. The light had changed and I had not charged forward fast enogh.

He expressed his displeasure with a floored accelerator as he roared around me.  There's a patience in me that in days past I would not have had.  A gentling from my commitment to Christ, and common sense, has taken place.  They do go together for love, respect and patient concern make more sense than hate, disrespect and anger.

I am atteuned more to the calendar than the clock tese days.  No longer am I so edgy from minjutes lost but more impressed bh thebrooad sweep of eternity that kows no time.

During my prayers I now quite often merely listen. No request.  No bargaining.  I daily improve my receiving of the Lord's broadcasted messages.

Morning

I am a coach and,m like it or not, the world is my team.  I call the plays by my actions and the world decides whether it wants to follow throughl.  Millions of players never get my message.  But people are watching me and as the old poem goes "I'd rather see a sermon in action than hear one."

Hundreds I may influence second hand. Dozens at work and at home and at play know my play book quite well.  We sit on the same bench.  We run out onto the same field.  I am, indeed, a play caller for them in this game of life and they play callers for me.  We win.  We lose.  We draw.

And God, good and gracious as He is, says, "Hold my play book in hand. Learn its contents.  Study its philosophy. See what it has done for other players.

To be continued next Tuesday

GO TO NEIL’S OTHER BLOG ONE A DAY, YOUR SPIRITUAL VITAMINS and read the following brain teasers.  CLICK ON URL BELOW

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“WHICH IS BETTER TO BE?  A WINDOW OR A DOOR” ” “BE A RAINBOW SEARCHER AND FINDER” “IS YOUR SENSE OF HUMOR STILL UNDER CONSTRUCTION?

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STARTED SUNDAY MARCH 5, 2011 Serialization of another book SIXTY PLUS AND NOT HOLDING 

This book, SIXTY PLUS AND NOT HOLDING, is about dealing positively with the challenges of getting older and fosters the belief  that “If we would have new knowledge, we must get a world of new questions.”  (Susanne K. Langer)

MANY OF THE SUGGESTIONS IN THIS BOOK ARE GOOD FOR IMPROVING ONE’S LIFE AT ANY AGE

“I am come that they (you) may have life and have it to the full.  (John 10:10)

Anyone who lives long enough gets older.  There are no other options.  How we handle the adventure is filled with options.

Keep both eyes on life, and not on the calendar.  Admit your age, but don’t admit to the fallacy that you have to act like it.  Saying, “I’m 39 and holding,” is more tragic than humorous because it argues that age has no attributes.

V. Neil Wyrick

Below a quote from it…

“Be like the farmer who, when asked what he was building, replied, “if I can rent it, it’s a rustic cottage.  If I can’t, it’s a cow shed.”

It’s called attitude and it can make us prematurely old or longer young.  For truly, things aren’t just what they are, but rather how we choose to see them.”

To access his other book’s; BOUNDARIES UNLIMITED, RUST ON MY SOUL, POOR RICHARD’S ALMANAC, I AM SIXTY PLUS AND NOT HOLDING, THE ABC’S OF PARENTING AND GRANDPARENTING, LETTERS TO AMERICA…go to Amazon.com (books) and type in Neil Wyrick.

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Below is a quote from Thursday Jan 20th Wyrick’s writings blog entitled ANGER VS. PATIENCE
“After the old man had departed, God called out to Abraham and asked where the stranger was. Abraham replied, “I sent him on his way because he did not worship you.”
God answered “I have suffered him all his eighty years although he dishonors me. Could you not endure for just one night?”

God suffers us, endures us! And forgives us and loves us and sets such a perfect example for us.”

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BELOW IS A QUOTE FROM THE SERIES  “A HEAVENLY CONSTRUCTION PROGRAM” …quoted from Sunday Jan 2 2011
(1st in series) (on this Wyrick’s Writing blog)

It began Sunday Dec 26, 2010

“I have always been intrigued by a question God put to Adam, “Where are you?” Why did He ask that? What is the meaning behind this? It wasn’t a geographical question, for certainly God knew the answer to that one.

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To view an abundance of unusual stories and comments by Neil Wyrick go to Neil’s other blog ONE A DAY, YOUR SPIRITUAL VITAMINS

Click on the following URL

http://oneadayyourspiritualvitamins.blogspot.com/

BELOW IS A QUOTE FROM A SERIES “Depression…the Alien Within”  on this Wyrick’s Writings …each Thursday

”Sometimes the best thing do, if depression descends on you, is for a little while to try to wipe clean the slate of your worried mind.  To give such thoughts some muted silence.  Seek an emotional whiteout.  Just let the soft breeze of nothingness blow for a while.  And then, read John 14:27 and hear Jesus saying, “Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you.  Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.” 

“Do you enjoy visiting friends? More than likely you’re thinking, Preacher, of course, I do.
Now let me ask the other side of the coin - Do you enjoy visiting enemies? No?
Well, I know you must enjoy visiting at least one enemy because, like myself, you probably visit this one quite often. Unfortunately, we all …visit this enemy…whose name is anger.

Some visit anger seldom . Some on a regular basis. And during those visits, some spew and others stew.”

CLICK ON THE URL BELOW

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IT WILL TAKE YOU TO NEIL’S OTHER BLOG.

There are over 600 stories and commentaries on this blog that began Nov 24, 2009. It is added to daily.

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V. Neil Wyrick’s ninth book THE SPIRITUAL ABRAHAM LINCOLN and is available at

MAGNUS PRESS

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A CHANCE FOR A CHANGE

I remember the day I no longer wanted to play in a sand pile.  I would never have believed it would happen.  And then, later on when I no longer enjoyed Abbott and Costello.  It happens.  Don’t fight it.  Our tastes I books,. Music, movies. vacations and a host of other opportunities change.

Sometimes physical problems force change upon us.  (Right now I’m recovering from a broken hip)  We can no longer ski or skate; a tennis ball can no longer be hit so hard.

If nothing is introduced into the space your prior activities occupied, a vacuum arises.  And vacuums need to be filled.

Jog if you can, but if you can’t, join an aerobics class.

If this is too much try power walking, which simply means walking as fast as you can.

Try dancing slowly to an old record.  Rather than aimlessly throwing your arms around, put on your favorite CD and conduct  an imaginary orchestra.

Or, go back to school and learn landscape architecture, computers, history, painting, etc.  Professors will love having you.  “My older students act more interested than many of my younger students,” a professor at the University of Miami recently told me.  If new interests are not sought then both brain and brawn turn to flab.

Diet?  Often that must also change.  I no longer drink as much coffee as once I did, but half a cup every day or so does quite fine.  I restrict my input of ice cream.  Indeed, I’ve switched to fat free/sugar free.  I know extra pounds other wise leave the sidelines and land on me.  (Then there is that diabetes problem that comes from overloading those bathroom scales)

To remain young one must be willing to change otherwise one grows old long before their time.

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This book, SIXTY PLUS AND NOT HOLDING, is about dealing positively with the challenges of getting older and fosters the belief  that “If we would have new knowledge, we must get a world of new questions.”  (Susanne K. Langer)

MANY SUGGESTIONS IN THIS BOOK FOR IMPROVING THE ART OF LIVING ARE GOOD FOR ANY AGE.

“I am come that they (you) may have life and have it to the full.  (John 10:10)

Anyone who lives long enough gets older.  There are no other options.  How we handle the adventure is filled with options.

Keep both eyes on life, and not on the calendar.  Admit your age, but don’t admit to the fallacy that you have to act like it.  Saying, “I’m 39 and holding,” is more tragic than humorous because it argues that age has no attributes.

V. Neil Wyrick

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TO WATCH NEIL WYRICK IN HIS ONE MAN DRAMAS (Presented to millions all around the world) (Ben Franiklin, Martin Luther, Charles Wesley and Abraham Lincoln (this Lincoln film takes 11 seconds to download but is worth the wait)

CLICK ON THE FOLLOWING

http://www.speakerneil.com/

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GOD IS LOVE

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Once a man built a weather vane.  He then set it up on top of his barn in full sight of any and all traveled the well worn road that weaved through his farm.

            Then underneath the weather vane he placed a plaque that read, “God is love.”

           

His neighbors and even a few strangers who stopped by to comment asked, “Why did you put ‘God is love’ beneath your weather vane.

           

“Ah, now” the farmer would always reply,” I just wanted to emphasize that God is love no matter which way the wind blows.”

            How did the scripture go again?  “Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.” (1 John 4:7-8)

            Whittier put it this way:

            I see the wrong that round me lies,

            I feel the guilt within;

            I hear with groan and travail-cries,

The world confess it’s sin.

Yet in the maddening maze of things,

And tossed by storm and flood,

To one fixed trust my spirit slings;

I know that God is good!

I know not where His islands lift

Their fronded palms in air.

I only know I cannot drift

Beyond His love and care.

God is love.  I’ve said it by story, by Scripture and by poem.  And I’ve chosen this subject for one specific reason.

Some people just don’t believe it.

They believe in God but they just don’t believe He is good.

They’ve seen the good die and the bad prosper.

They’ve seen the strong devour the weak.

They’ve seen too much suffering and pain and they cry out into the night, “If God is love, then why must there be so much that is unlovely?”

Well, needless to say, I’m not going to solve the paradox of problem and pain all in one Sabbath August morning.

But I am going to write to the paradox and categorically state that I personally believe in a loving God.

I believe He knows what He is doing and He does nothing without reason.

I believe that what confuses me as a child of God is understood with infinite wisdom by my eternal heavenly Father.

I believe these things not with a blind faith that will not ask questions but with a strong faith that admits I will never have all the answers.

Think on this, if you will.

How could God teach kindness without suffering to be relieved?

How could He teach man courage without something to overcome?

How could he teach man true love unless man were tempted to hate?

How could He teach man endurance if there were no burdens to bear?

            A Chinese proverb puts it this way, “A diamond cannot be polished without friction, nor man perfected without trials.”

To access his other book’s; BOUNDARIES UNLIMITED, RUST ON MY SOUL, POOR RICHARD’S ALMANAC, I AM SIXTY PLUS AND NOT HOLDING, THE ABC’S OF PARENTING AND GRANDPARENTING, LETTERS TO AMERICA…go to Amazon.com (books) and type in Neil Wyrick.

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To view an abundance of unusual stories and comments by Neil Wyrick go to Neil’s other blog ONE A DAY, YOUR SPIRITUAL VITAMINS

Click on the following URL

http://oneadayyourspiritualvitamins.blogspot.com/

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Below is a quote from Thursday Jan 20th Wyrick’s writings blog entitled ANGER VS. PATIENCE
“After the old man had departed, God called out to Abraham and asked where the stranger was. Abraham replied, “I sent him on his way because he did not worship you.”
God answered “I have suffered him all his eighty years although he dishonors me. Could you not endure for just one night?”

God suffers us, endures us! And forgives us and loves us and sets such a perfect example for us.”

*************************************
BELOW IS A QUOTE FROM THE SERIES  “A HEAVENLY CONSTRUCTION PROGRAM” …quoted from Sunday Jan 2 2011
(1st in series) (on this Wyrick’s Writing blog)

It began Sunday Dec 26, 2010

“I have always been intrigued by a question God put to Adam, “Where are you?” Why did He ask that? What is the meaning behind this? It wasn’t a geographical question, for certainly God knew the answer to that one.

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BELOW IS A QUOTE FROM A NEW SERIES “Depression…the Alien Within”  on this Wyrick’s Writings …each Thursday

”Sometimes the best thing do, if depression descends on you, is for a little while to try to wipe clean the slate of your worried mind.  To give such thoughts some muted silence.  Seek an emotional whiteout.  Just let the soft breeze of nothingness blow for a while.  And then, read John 14:27 and hear Jesus saying, “Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you.  Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.” 

“Do you enjoy visiting friends? More than likely you’re thinking, Preacher, of course, I do.
Now let me ask the other side of the coin - Do you enjoy visiting enemies? No?
Well, I know you must enjoy visiting at least one enemy because, like myself, you probably visit this one quite often. Unfortunately, we all …visit this enemy…whose name is anger.

Some visit anger seldom . Some on a regular basis. And during those visits, some spew and others stew.”

Copy and paste THE URL BELOW

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IT WILL TAKE YOU TO NEIL’S OTHER BLOG.

There are over 600 stories and commentaries on this blog that began Nov 24, 2009. It is added to daily.

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TO WATCH NEIL WYRICK IN HIS ONE MAN DRAMAS (Presented to millions all around the world) (Ben Franiklin, Martin Luther, Charles Wesley and Abraham Lincoln (this Lincoln film takes 11 seconds to download but is worth the wait)

Copy and paste the following URL

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V. Neil Wyrick’s ninth book THE SPIRITUAL ABRAHAM LINCOLN and is available at

MAGNUS PRESS

AVAILABLE ON AMAZON.COM’S Kindle

http://www.magnuspress.com/OurProducts2.html 

25% off all books, buy 4 get 1 free and free shipping

Winter Sale through March

Phone Orders:  800-463-7818

RUST ON MY SOUL (61^st in series)  

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The Serialization of RUST ON MY SOUL is added to each TUESDAY Go back to April 13th and start the Series.************************************


RUST ON MY SOUL (A Novel) (Published by Bridge Press in 1985 & Distributed Internationally) (A new Series that began on Tues April 13th and will continue every Tuesday thereafter until finished) (Thursday & Sunday will continue to cover a variety of subjects as in the past)

INTRODUCTION (Repeated for those new to the series)

In an old loose leaf notebook, Thomas Kettering wrote when there was a cry from his heart. He wrote when his inner longing spilled over into the reality of his days. He did not write every day, only when he felt he must. How often he wrote or when is not important. The journey is what counts, for it is a diary about all of us, to all of us. “A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step,” and even a stumble is a step.

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Afternoon

I just don’t believe man has it in him to be even close to perfect.  Some of my Christian friends look askance at me when I count my victories over sin in terms of yards not miles.

“Pieces of heavenly joy for me are a heady experience.” I told one Christian pilgrim who kept telling me how great it as when he set out each day on a path of unbroken joy.

No anxiety?  No anger?  Always perfect peace?  I’m one thousand percent better than where I was, but perfection?  I think I’ll pass it by.  It would make me and other people nervous.

“But what would Christ have you do?” my pilgrim argued.  “He would have me weep with Him on the cross.  He would remind me that even saints have suffered.  He would let me exalt in the glory of that Resurrection and in the Transfiguration but then come back down to earth to live out my frustrations no longer alone.

No longer alone.  If there is solace for my soul it is that.  Wounds will continue but the Balm of Gilead is now always near.

Evening

“The Lord is my shepherd.”  At last my ears regard it as a shout rather than a whisper, and my soul comes alive at the revelation.  It’s nothing new, but it’s new to me.  I am one of His sheep.  His responsibility.  His vocation.  His avocation.

I never thought being a sheep would excite me but I have been satisfied with being a jackass long enough.

I can still hear the irritated anxiety in his voice.  He was in the next bed over in the emergency room.  That was five months ago.

“Excuse me, but I’m Reverend Smithers, and I’ve got a church fill of people expecting me tonight.”  The implication was clear.  He needed a nice, clean antiseptic miracle and he needed it quickly.  He hadn’t planned the accident which had reshaped his body and several of his limbs.  His face was white with shock.  Three minutes later he gave a deep sigh followed by a brief, bewildered look and expired.

My own monologue was much the same, I, too, let it be known that I had things to do.  They were important to me.  I thought I had registered them all with destiny so that, though bumping and bungling along, everything would be somehow in the proper order. 

A minister dies.  A businessman lives.  A beautiful little girl is scarred for life.  A letter accepting an engagement proposal is never delivered, and the shower stall really does look better cleaned with the new product.  The mundane, the majestic, and the murderous unknown moments crash and clash around us.

Every evening twenty five million people swallow sleeping pills.  Every thirty minutes thirty-eight people attempt suicide.  Life has more sharp edges than any soap opera.

To be continued next Tuesday

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GO TO NEIL’S OTHER BLOG ONE A DAY, YOUR SPIRITUAL VITAMINS and read the following brain teasers.  CLICK ON URL BELOW

http://oneadayyourspiritualvitamins.blogspot.com/

“WHICH IS BETTER TO BE?  A WINDOW OR A DOOR” ” “BE A RAINBOW SEARCHER AND FINDER” “IS YOUR SENSE OF HUMOR STILL UNDER CONSTRUCTION?

Click on the URL below to WATCH NEIL IN HIS WORLD FAMOUS

ONE MAN DR

AMATIZATIONS OF ABRAHAM LINCOLN, BEN FRANKLIN, CHARLES WESLEY AND MARTIN LUTHER

http://www.speakerneil.com/

STARTED SUNDAY MARCH 5, 2011 Serialization of another book SIXTY PLUS AND NOT HOLDING 

This book, SIXTY PLUS AND NOT HOLDING, is about dealing positively with the challenges of getting older and fosters the belief  that “If we would have new knowledge, we must get a world of new questions.”  (Susanne K. Langer)

MANY OF THE SUGGESTIONS IN THIS BOOK ARE GOOD FOR IMPROVING ONE’S LIFE AT ANY AGE

“I am come that they (you) may have life and have it to the full.  (John 10:10)

Anyone who lives long enough gets older.  There are no other options.  How we handle the adventure is filled with options.

Keep both eyes on life, and not on the calendar.  Admit your age, but don’t admit to the fallacy that you have to act like it.  Saying, “I’m 39 and holding,” is more tragic than humorous because it argues that age has no attributes.

V. Neil Wyrick

Below a quote from it…

“Be like the farmer who, when asked what he was building, replied, “if I can rent it, it’s a rustic cottage.  If I can’t, it’s a cow shed.”

It’s called attitude and it can make us prematurely old or longer young.  For truly, things aren’t just what they are, but rather how we choose to see them.”

To access his other book’s; BOUNDARIES UNLIMITED, RUST ON MY SOUL, POOR RICHARD’S ALMANAC, I AM SIXTY PLUS AND NOT HOLDING, THE ABC’S OF PARENTING AND GRANDPARENTING, LETTERS TO AMERICA…go to Amazon.com (books) and type in Neil Wyrick.

************************

Below is a quote from Thursday Jan 20th Wyrick’s writings blog entitled ANGER VS. PATIENCE
“After the old man had departed, God called out to Abraham and asked where the stranger was. Abraham replied, “I sent him on his way because he did not worship you.”
God answered “I have suffered him all his eighty years although he dishonors me. Could you not endure for just one night?”

God suffers us, endures us! And forgives us and loves us and sets such a perfect example for us.”

*************************************

BELOW IS A QUOTE FROM THE SERIES  “A HEAVENLY CONSTRUCTION PROGRAM” …quoted from Sunday Jan 2 2011
(1st in series) (on this Wyrick’s Writing blog)

It began Sunday Dec 26, 2010

“I have always been intrigued by a question God put to Adam, “Where are you?” Why did He ask that? What is the meaning behind this? It wasn’t a geographical question, for certainly God knew the answer to that one.

BELOW IS A QUOTE FROM A SERIES “Depression…the Alien Within”  on this Wyrick’s Writings …each Thursday

”Sometimes the best thing do, if depression descends on you, is for a little while to try to wipe clean the slate of your worried mind.  To give such thoughts some muted silence.  Seek an emotional whiteout.  Just let the soft breeze of nothingness blow for a while.  And then, read John 14:27 and hear Jesus saying, “Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you.  Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.” 

“Do you enjoy visiting friends? More than likely you’re thinking, Preacher, of course, I do.
Now let me ask the other side of the coin - Do you enjoy visiting enemies? No?
Well, I know you must enjoy visiting at least one enemy because, like myself, you probably visit this one quite often. Unfortunately, we all …visit this enemy…whose name is anger.

Some visit anger seldom . Some on a regular basis. And during those visits, some spew and others stew.”

CLICK ON THE URL BELOW

http://oneadayyourspiritualvitamins.blogspot.com/

IT WILL TAKE YOU TO NEIL’S OTHER BLOG.

There are over 600 stories and commentaries on this blog that began Nov 24, 2009. It is added to daily.

***********************

TO WATCH NEIL WYRICK IN HIS ONE MAN DRAMAS (Presented to millions all around the world) (Ben Franiklin, Martin Luther, Charles Wesley and Abraham Lincoln (this Lincoln film takes 11 seconds to download but is worth the wait)

CLICK ON THE FOLLOWING

http://www.speakerneil.com/

**************************

V. Neil Wyrick’s ninth book THE SPIRITUAL ABRAHAM LINCOLN and is available at

MAGNUS PRESS

AVAILABLE ON AMAZON.COM’S Kindle

http://www.magnuspress.com/OurProducts2.html 

25% off all books, buy 4 get 1 free and free shipping

Winter Sale through March

Phone Orders:  800-463-7818

SIXTY PLUS AND NOT HOLDING (Continuation of Series)

If you would like to share this blog with a friend, go to the bottom and click on the TELL A FRIEND

               

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DO YOU HAVE A BLOG OR FACEBOOK?  IF YOU ENJOY THESE WRITINGS COULD YOU CALL ATTENTION TO THIS BLOG?  IF YOU DO, THANKS IN ADVANCE

+++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++

This book, SIXTY PLUS AND NOT HOLDING, is about dealing positively with the challenges of getting older and fosters the belief  that “If we would have new knowledge, we must get a world of new questions.”  (Susanne K. Langer)

MANY SUGGESTIONS IN THIS BOOK FOR IMPROVING THE ART OF LIVING ARE GOOD FOR ANY AGE.

“I am come that they (you) may have life and have it to the full.  (John 10:10)

Anyone who lives long enough gets older.  There are no other options.  How we handle the adventure is filled with options.

Keep both eyes on life, and not on the calendar.  Admit your age, but don’t admit to the fallacy that you have to act like it.  Saying, “I’m 39 and holding,” is more tragic than humorous because it argues that age has no attributes.

V. Neil Wyrick

HOW TO HANDLE THE DIFFICULT PEOPLE OF THE WORLD

Difficult people are an emotional poison oak in the midst of human relationships.  And usually, the older they get the worse they get.  DP’s are fueled either by a massive arrogance that will admit no wrong, or an overwhelming insecurity that feeds their paranoia.  Everyone can be difficult at times.  For some it is truly a permanent condition.

So how to deal with the problem?

Well, once you have established you are dealing with a real DP, don’t fantasize that they are really a nice person in disguise.  Instead, prepare to deal with reality.

Some questions to ask as a starting point…

1.     What’s the problem?

2.     When did it start?

3.     Why?

When you think you have come up with some reasonable answers try for dialogue with the object of your disaffection.  There is no guarantee you will find success but you will find satisfaction because you tried.  And, yes, there really is a good chance real communication will take place and the problem solved.

Begin by not beating around the bush.  “It’s been bothering me that we seem to be disagreeing a lot lately.  Is it something I said?...or did? 

Or, what is wrong?  I’d really like for us (note the us) to be able to deal positively with our stumbling blocks.”  Note the use of stumbling blocks.  They can be removed and don’t have the bad connotation such as words like problem, trouble, difficulty, disagreement, etc. 

Nothing can be solved until it is out in the open.  And a willingness to share the blame helps.,

Or another approach when working on the problem.  “I can see how you felt that way.”  (understanding)

“What I really meant.” (explanation)

Admittedly, the other person may not be ready for dialogue  You may have to repeat yourself.  You may still get nowhere.  You may even get angry at yourself for wasting your time trying to make things better, but remember what the late Flip Wilson said, “You don’t hit no jackpots if you don’t put any quarters in the machine.”

Try the question vs. statement routine.  Actually, if you do it right a good question is a statement with the rough edges gone.

“I think I understand,, but would you explain?”  Then listen to the answer, let your questions show you fully understand the problem… and definitely are willing to listen.

Be patient.  Sometimes difficult people are that way because things are moving too fast for them.  Confused, being dragged along too rapidly in a direction they haven’t planned, they rebel.  This is when patiently, without that exasperated tone in your voice or look on our face, repeating your reasons responds to their foot dragging which was really a cry for help.

Therefore, be an individual who tries to use your mind as much as your mouth.  To look the other person in the eye, not in anger but with body language sent out the message you are ready an willing fo a reasonable, friendly, discussion anytime they are.

Always, make it clear you are not a wimp giving in, but neither are ou an unreasonable bore.  Even some slight agreement can diffuse an otherwise volatile situation.

“There are areas I still have questions about…but I do agree…(this implies everything is not wrong about the other persons’ point of view).

Most people cannot sustain their anger forever.  If all else fails, wait them out.  Most people will run out of fuel if you don’t provide them with more.

If what you have done in dealing with a DP doesn’t work, be willing to be innovative.  Write a note:

“Dear Joe/Jane,

     I have been thinking about what you said and you have a lot of good points. (praise)  However, I wonder if you have considered…(your ideas)  After you have had time to think about these ideas I’d like to discusss them further.  Would this afternoon or tomorrow morning (don’t wait too long) be okay? 

A call for a friendly but honest discussion…an opportunity for both parties to chose more carefully their words.

Difficult people come in all shapes and sizes.  The one or more you have deal with may be overt or secretive, loudly or softly sarcastic, opinionated or insecure, or completely creative in their miserable behavior.  You may never reach a complete solution, but it is always worth some effort to try.

Below a quote from it…

“Be like the farmer who, when asked what he was building, replied, “if I can rent it, it’s a rustic cottage.  If I can’t, it’s a cow shed.”

It’s called attitude and it can make us prematurely old or longer young.  For truly, things aren’t just what they are, but rather how we choose to see them.”

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A HEAVENLY CONSTRUCTION PROGRAM(1st in series) (on this WyrIck’s Writing blog)

It began Sunday Dec 26, 2010

“I have always been intrigued by a question God put to Adam, “Where are you?” Why did He ask that? What is the meaning behind this? It wasn’t a geographical question, for certainly God knew the answer to that one.

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BELOW IS A QUOTE FROM the SERIES on this Wyrick’s Writings site entitled ANGER IS A KILLER. It began Thursday January 6, 2010.

“Do you enjoy visiting friends? More than likely you’re thinking, Preacher, of course, I do.
Now let me ask the other side of the coin - Do you enjoy visiting enemies? No?
Well, I know you must enjoy visiting at least one enemy because, like myself, you probably visit this one quite often. Unfortunately, we all …visit this enemy…whose name is anger.

Some visit anger seldom . Some on a regular basis. And during those visits, some spew and others stew.”

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