Tuesday, October 13, 2015

CONFLICT MISMANAGEMENT? WHY CAN'T WE GT ALONG?

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How often have you said or heard, Why can’t we just get along with each other?”

And it was a sigh, or it was a cry, and sometimes it was truly an agony.

       Is the answer PRIDE?

All the people in the world who have dedicated their lives to being important

....who one day will be terribly disappointed to wake up and realize they really are not the center of the Universe.

       You’ve met this kind of individual, and God willing you are not one of them.  The kind of person who truly believes they are the greatest and wisest on any subject, anywhere and anytime.

       The kind of person one philosopher wrote about when he penned, “People wrapped up in themselves make very small packages.”

       Do you remember the last time you had a first class conflict was it because, with all your wisdom, you were trying to control someone else and they just didn’t want to be controlled?

       Or was it perhaps when someone tried to let you know you had just made a mistake and that it was going to get  you in serious trouble if you didn't correct it?  How dare them?

       Hm!  Think on this:

If you correct a wise man, he will be wiser.

Correct a fool and he will only get mad.

WHY CAN’T WE GET ALONG?

Because sometimes we just don’t know how to accomplish this seeming impossibility.  Or we really don’t want to learn how.

I have a suggestion – If there is bad blood between you and another individual, ask the object of your conflict emotions to become a prayer partner.
 
Now that may indeed seem an extreme course of action. It may well be difficult to achievebut if you have someone you are always having conflicts with and ask them to be your prayer partner there’s no way to go but up!
 
That’s right…it’s hard to have an ongoing conflict with someone who is praying for you while you are praying for them.

Well now, have you ever sat at a meeting table or at a family dining table and sent a frown of disapproval at someone who just dared to disagree with you?

       It happens elsewhere and everywhere…at the hearthstone…in the workplace…it happens at meetings in churches…and definitely in the halls of government. 

       It happens  anywhere there are two or more people who are disagreeing. 

       Talking and seldom listening.

       Back in my younger piano playing days I used to play duets. 

       It was fun and really quite beautiful…two people playing at the same time but dedicated to blending..  blending because we were listening carefully to each other.


If one of us, with our ego showing, had decided we wanted to be heard above the other, all we would have had to do was start playing in a completely different key or tempo or crescendo.  Anything that just didn’t harmonize with what the other person was playing and thereby create a musical conflict.

       Immediately we would have switched from beautiful music to just discordant noise.

       But that’s what we do all the time…work at cross purposes…and mess up our lives with a lot of emotional, discordant noise.

       WHY CAN’T WE GET ALONG?

       Because not enough people communicate but rather become dramatists acting as if they are paying attention.

       In the comic strip PEANUTS, Lucy walks into a room and demands that Linus change TV channels and threatens him with her fist if he doesn’t.

What makes you think you can walk right in here and take over?” asks Linus.

These five fingers,” says Lucy. “Individually they’re nothing but when I curl them together like this into a single unit, they form a weapon that is terrible to behold.”

“Which channel do you want?” asks Linus.

Turning away, he looks at his fingers and says, “Why can’t you guys get organized like that?”

But so often we do organize as a fist rather than an extended hand of fellowship and friendship…

and we do not often enough offer the gift of reconciliation… and the rough edges of anger take over.

       And Jesus, speaking to the crowd on that Sermon on the Mount mountain, sent out a message of patient peace…a message of anti-conflict .   “Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to your brother; then come and offer your gift.”  (Matthew 5:23)

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