Innovative Parenting Skills

Raise your child not to rush toward ignorance. Teach them to fall in love with knowledge and not to court stupidity. And, yes, he or she who does not constantly learn something new is both bored and boring. Talk with someone who is overwhelmed with a lack of knowledge and they will prove the fact. Ask your child if they want everyone, after they spoken with them for awhile, to think they are bored and boring.
Teach your child to have a little of the shooting star in them rather than be satisfied with being just a flashlight. An enthusiastic child is much more apt to do and be their best. How can it be taught?
First, by not killing it. Parents do that with words such as “Stop asking such stupid questions.” "Shut up and go play outside.” “Act your age.” You are the laziest kid (child) on the face of the earth.”
Second, by showing enthusiasm for your child’s enthusiasms.
And….what’s it like to be a child? We’ve forgotten.
What’s it like to be a parent? A child has no experience.
So try role playing. It may produce laughter, but it may well also produce understanding.
To your child say, “Let’s play a game. For a little while I’m going to be you and you’re going to be me. We’re going to act out scenarios (teach them a new word) about manners, responsibilities and the whole art of living better.”
To get started, perhaps act and sound as he or she does when you remind them to do a chore. Then encourage them to act and sound as you do during the same discussion. And no fair getting your feelings hurt when your child really gets into it and proves a facile mimic.
You may both have a little trouble getting into the spirit of the game. Your imagination may require some mental massaging, but don’t give up on the idea. Most problems arise because we really don’t get in the other person’s frame of mind. It really may come as a revelation to both parties how each sounds from the other person’s point of view.
An anonymous wisdom person suggests that if we want our children to keep their feet on the ground we must be sure we have put sufficient responsibility on their shoulders.

With The Election Coming Up...just some things to think about

People expect Presidents to be magicians and with the wave of a hand make everything well. Therefore, when things go wrong, the President is blamed when he deserves it and when he does not.
Legal factors that restrain a President’s power are: The Constitution - separation of powers, Congress, Federal Courts. And then there is public opinion; influenced by the press and media, the opposing party, the economy, special interest groups and always lurking in the background the ever present fear of losing the next election. It’s more than a tightrope the president walks; it’s a field of land mines.
What makes a good President? One who is both forceful, flexible and filled with forbearance!
What makes a good voter? One who checks reasons for voting and for whom twice, thrice and maybe once more for good measure.

Write It Down...Read It Aloud

When you have a decision to make, be it mental, physical, spiritual or emotional write it down and read it aloud. Write down what will happen; good, bad or indifferent. There is an echo to every decision that never stops repeating itself. There is clarity to hearing your own voice that will allow you to see whether what you have written has wisdom in it or a touch of the ridiculous.
And, yes, now that you have taken the time and effort to fine tune your thoughts and give flight to your decision, pray about it. God is my co-pilot is an old and well used phrase well worthy of its repetition... so have a good journey.

Would You Be Emotionally Healthy?

Mark Twain put it well when he wrote, “Let us so live that when we die even the undertaker will be sorry.”
Would you be emotionally healthy? Then learn to take a stand without stamping your feet. Learn to stick by your guns without shooting off your mouth. Learn to have convictions without hurting, hating or haranguing those of different mind.
Would you like for people to want to cheer when you walk into a room? Well, you don’t have to be a person who is always telling jokes or dancing a jig. You just need to find the gift of patience, the warmth of understanding and at least the beginnings of a sense of humor.
Ben Franklin commented, “Well done is better than well said.”

An Ounce of Improvement is Equal to An Ounce of Improvement

And, yes, eventually, it adds up to a pound.
Husbands and wives PLEASE study the following questions and hopefully come up with the right answers.
1. Is your sense of humor in the Lost and Not Found Department? One does not have to be a comedian or always be telling jokes to be a good partner, but the ability to laugh at oneself should not be a lost art.
2. Do you too often make your mate a target for your temper?
3. Have you lived with a stranger lately? Well, what I’m really saying is that some mates should treat their partners like strangers because they treat strangers better than their partners.
4. Do you really expect sweetness to rise out of acid complaints?
5. Do you get mad and stay that way long after you really should have calmed down?
6. Do you talk too much and listen too little?
An ounce of improvement is the first step on the way to a pound of cure!

What To KnowWhen Dealing with Someone Who is Depressed

If they have spoken about committing suicide don’t lecture them about the immorality of it. They have already thought about that themselves. Love them, support them, the last thing they need is argument. Know that you can rightly assure them that most people get over their depression within six months or less. This way they can hang in there knowing that most likely it will go away. Certainly don’t act shocked, even if you are. That can break whatever bond you have in a matter of minutes. And, yes, ask them if they are thinking of killing themselves. You won’t be planting a seed. You will quite likely be defusing a bomb.

The Importance of Knowing All About Your Bananas

It’s an old story but really quite timeless. A young grocery clerk was bagging some bananas that were well past their prime. An older clerk shouted out, “Don’t do that! Don’t even think about sending those bananas to Mrs. Abbott! She is very particular about what she gets, and if her order isn’t right, she’ll send it back.”
“Now bananas like that are all right for Mrs. Brown. She doesn’t know the difference and she doesn’t care.”
And so it is in the United States; when all the votes are soon counted America will get the bananas they asked for. If enough have done their homework and know a good banana when they see it, at the very least their vote will make sense. If they know nothing but just that they find the candidate pleasing and vote from that perspective, they may have voted for the wrong banana. And it will be too late.
So, read all you can and think all you can about as much information as you can…then and then only vote.
Yes, your vote is important because a million times one is a million while a million times zero is zero.

How to be an Optimist Rather than a Pessimist

Someone once said that a pessimist is someone who can look at the land of milk and honey and see only calories and cholesterol. Who, when he sees the light at the end of the tunnel, rushes ahead to blow it out.
Never forget that the good life is not an automatic any more than a bad life is an automatic. It depends not only on which birds fly over your head, but which ones you allow to make a nest in your hair.
Life is a farm where we harvest what we plant. Cultivate cowardice, doubt, discontent and pessimism and these will haunt your days. Cultivate courage, faith and positive thinking and these will happily be yours for a lifetime.
Life truly is not what it is but what you make it. It may not be all you want, but it is all you have, so stick a daisy in your hat and be happy. Heck, don’t stop with a daisy. Plant a rose bush,. Cultivate an orchid.
Actually, be a mobile nursery!

An Idea for Better Parenting

Q. How can I be a better parent or grandparent? In this busy world I am afraid I am not doing a very good job.
A. Don’t pass on your own fears; they will come up with enough of their own.
Do not bribe for good behavior; you will be teaching them that everything has
a price. If you continue to get mad over little things you will create big
problems. Do not lie to them, or for them. Do not try to protect them from the consequences of their actions. Be consistent; to be anything less is to confuse the best of children. If you promise it…do it. Don’t threaten a child with consequences unless you mean it. Always warm them with your love, but don’t smother them

The Spiritual Abraham Lincoln

YOU HAVE READ THE RAVE REVIEWS…NOW ENJOY THIS ENTIRE FIRST CHAPTER OF THE BOOK… Many seed ideas FOR TALKS …His 200th birthday is coming up in 2009 and will be celebrated all across the nation.

THE SPIRITUAL ABRAHAM LINCOLN

Chapter 1

IN THE BEGINNING

One day the second child of Thomas and Nancy Hank Lincoln would become the president of what many have called and continue to call, the Promised Land. However, anyone voicing such a thought on the day of his birth, the twelfth of February 1809, would have been laughed at and told by any backwoods listener that he didn’t have a possums chance. Picture this future president growing up dirt poor with a shirt made of bear skins, a coonskin hat and dreams of something better than what was offered. The one room notched log cabin in Hardin County Kentucky certainly wasn’t much of a springboard for success.
He was named after his paternal granddaddy and Abraham in the Bible. Though the Biblical Abraham was certainly a leader, our Abe achieved leadership not because he was born to it, but because somewhere along the line he decided he would rather lead than be led.
His mother often rested the family Bible in her lap as she recited its stories to little Abe and his sister Sarah. A younger brother Thomas died at birth. With love and affection Lincoln said of her, “God bless my mother. All that I am or ever hope to be, I owe to her.” He never stopped reading his Bible, which is why so many of his speeches were peppered with Scripture.

Through much of his youth was certainly an isolated existence, there was a period when their home was on the main road from Louisville to Nashville. Running right by their cabin door, it gave Lincoln the advantage of countless meetings with multi-thinking travelers. By the time the family moved again, when he was seven, he had to have listened scads of times to discussions about how government could, and needed to, improve on the shakiness of land ownership because of uncertain boundaries, high interest rates and slavery.
It was during this same time that America nearly lost its future president before they lost him to an assassination. He almost drowned in a creek. But it didn’t happen. He was needed down the road for greater things.
Unfortunately, when Abe was only nine his mother died of milk fever, as did many in that time. His widowed father soon married again and if one had to have a stepmother, Lincoln could have done no better than Sally Bush. This woman, who for the rest of his life he referred to as his angel mother, did all she could to encourage his father to look more kindly on his love of learning. It was an exercise in futility for Tom Lincoln considered such bookish behavior a waste of time. This was how Abe came to regard his father’s occupational choices.
Having two such remarkable mothers who so greatly influenced this gangling youth could almost be called providential.

The Opportunity of a formal education for young Abe was close to nil. One time they lived eighteen miles from a school. That was a lot of walking between the family farm and the one room schoolhouse he called his learning home. It is one of the reasons that over his childhood he had a little less than a year’s worth of actual schooling.
Because there were no books, everything was learned by rote, hence the nickname Blab Schools. Abe liked to repeat things over and over so he would never forget them, saying such as:

“Live in your youth so you will not have to be ashamed in your old age.”
“Coward never start, the weak never finish.”
“You can get more with an ounce of honey than a gallon of gall.”

He tried always to live by these and other early learned school house maxims.
Nor was paper readily available. During these brief winter sessions, he would practice his lessons the dirt or snow.
Chasing after a good book like a dog after a rabbit, he would sometimes walk as far as twenty miles to borrow one. It was said that from the ave of twelve he never went anywhere without a beloved book tucked beneath his arm. Lincoln began to develop a list of favorites: Aesop’s Fables, thought provoking Pilgrim’s Progress, the works of William Shakespeare, The life of George Washington, and the biographies of Ben Franklin.
One section in particular in Pilgrim’s Progress heaving influenced his thinking. Ignorance is walking with two pilgrims and says, “My heart is as good as any man’s heart…as to my thoughts, I take no notice of them.”
Many of his friends chose ignorance and could neither read nor write. He was known to comment that they were not too dumb to learn, but rather too lazy. “Some,” he said, “were so lazy they couldn’t have raised a good stink even if they were a skunk,.” I can easily imagine Lincoln, with sadness for their lack of discipline, quoting Proverbs, “As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.”
It is one thing to know what should be done. It is always something else to do it. Surmise then that his Bible knowledge offered motivation thoughts such as “Wisdom is the principal thing, therefore get wisdom and with all thy getting get understanding.”
Part of his education would today be called survival school As in all pioneer families, the possibility of disaster was never far away. There were no guarantees when a farmer walked out his door come morning time that he would come back though that same door when dusk arrived. Abe once killed a hundred snakes no more than a hoot and a holler from the family doorstep.
The thick, dark woods held bears ready to attack and Indians to scalp. Homesteaders early learned to sometimes walk backwards rather than forwards. That way, an Indian up to no good, coming upon footprints on the forest floor, would be confused as to which was his intended victim might be going. Even in church every man had a rifle by his side while others outside stood guard.
With little knowledge of sanitation, no corner drugstore with remedies for infection, pre-natal care non-existent and even ill-prepared doctors scant, it is little wonder his boyhood was filled with superstitious saying. Indeed, at any gathering, folk would more often than not share what they considered medical tidbits: steal a dishrag – kill a wart. Skip a row when you plant and there’ll be a death in the family. Or, if a horse breathes on your child it’s get whooping cough. As late as 1859, if a doctor-to-be attended medical school at all, he had covered the entire store of existing medical lore in one year.
However, there was never a shortage of courageous dreamers who might die young, but, as more than one would proclaim, “I’ll die wilderness free.” It wasn’t that any self-reliant pioneer wanted complete loneliness. It was that he expressed a desire for more moving-around-in space by saying, “Don’t mind a neighbor as long as he’s not too close. But if I can stand in my front door and see smoke rising from his cabin, he’s too close.”
The question of slavery traveled with these new pioneers who were not men and women shy with their opinions nor reticent in their responses. One Lincoln historian has suggested that his lifetime dislike of slavery stemmed from having been, to a large degree, a slave to his father. Whenever there was any time not needed to work on their own property, his father would hire him out to a neighbor and keep the money for himself. Every muscle in Abe’s boy got a daily working over that might have killed some lesser men. He had no idea what lay beyond time’s horizon, but he definitely knew he did not want it to be farming.
Because Abe was always more than persistent toward rightness, just before he finally left home he helped build one more family log cabin. It was finished four days after his twenty-first birthday, and then he left. God had work for him to do.


Chapter 2

THE MAKING OF THE MAN

Who was Lincoln, the man? We have had well over a century to try to answer that question and are still overwhelmed by the task for he fits into no convenient mold. When Lincoln was born, what did God have in mind? What did his Lord want him to be? All the hours he spent in church listening to sermons certainly had their influence. In all his decisions when he was president, he must have been guided by a Jesus who did not just look at the Via Dolorosa, but walked it. Who did not just partake of the Last Supper, but served it. Abe’s Biblical learning must have underlined the thought that prayers must be more than just the turning of a prayer wheel. There is no record of his first heavenly appeal, but it is well established that he believed prayers is a conduit that can read the the heart of God……………………………………..
Neil’s 10th book Letters to 21st Century America From Charles Wesley, Hymn Writer Supreme is being published by CSS publisher in the near future.
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